For my 妹妹 - Learn To Be Happy
How and why do our life experiences affect the way we think and feel, how we become sad or happy?
Are human beings born to be miserable?
No - We are born to evolve through experiences. We are born to learn through life experiences. There is no doubt that we all have a big variety of situations or experiences during our existence that we allow to affect the way we think and therefore the way we feel. There are people, objects and intangibles things that we meet and they become part of our life and therefore our life experiences.
We all make choices, every day, every moment. The reason we are happy or unhappy is not our experiences but the way we deal with our experiences; what we think about them, therefore the attitude we take to deal with them. Everything we do either makes us successful or unsuccessful, moves us forward or backward.
Being miserable or happy is a matter of choice. This choice has to do with the attitude each of us has. Things are the way they are, they cannot be otherwise. The problem starts when we label our experiences with our own attitude. Our attitude is the outcome of how we feel and how we will respond. Sadly and ironically, many of us build such an attitude that instead of solving the problems we already have, we create even more problems.
So, what we can do to be happy? How can move forward instead of backward?First we have to consider cause and effect. Our mind stores our experiences as thoughts, thoughts create feelings or emotions, and what we feel is the way we act. Our attitude is a reaction to our thoughts, feelings and actions. It is positive or negative based not on what we think, but how we think, and how we think is related to our level of awareness.
So, the roots of our emotions are in our thoughts; how we think about things. When we have negative thoughts, we are creating unhappiness in our lives and if it's something that we don't want for our life, it is time to take control and put our brain to work to form a new attitude by creating new positive thoughts.
You will only be happy, move forward, be the champion you are meant to be when you are honest and take action. Start to motivate your mind with positive thoughts. Start with thoughts of love, optimism, and creativity. Start by appreciating and valuing every second of life, everything you are and have, and become passionate about everything you do.
Regardless of what happens, paint your life, daily, with a smile in everything you experience. The more you do this, the happier you will become.
Move with the flow. Things are the way they are, they cannot be otherwise. If you row in the direction the river is flowing, its energy assists you. But, if you row against the river's flow, it is only a matter of time before you become exhausted, overwhelmed and defeated.
It is important to be clear; to understand that happiness is not dependent on the outside world. Nobody can make you happy or unhappy. You take charge of your life. You and only you have the power to control the way you feel. When your desire to be happy becomes as strong as the need to breathe, you will be happy. If you want to be happy, make happiness part of your daily thoughts, emotions and actions.
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简单 VS 复杂
这个世界其实很简单，只是人心很复杂。
其实人心也很简单，只是利益分配很复杂。
人与人之间的关系很简单，由于利益分配很复杂才有了尔虞我诈，
才有了勾心斗角。纷繁的尘世其实也很简单，由于人类情感很复杂
才有了离合聚散。
人生之简单，是生命长卷中的几笔线条，有着疏疏朗朗的淡泊；
是生命意境中的一轮薄月，有着清清凉凉的宁静。
人生之复杂，是泼洒在生命宣纸上的墨迹，渲染着城府与世故；
是拉响在生命深处的咿咿呀呀的胡琴，
挥不去嘈杂与迷惘。
天地有大美，于简单处得；人生有大疲惫，在复杂处藏。
生活中常有大情趣，一定是日子过得很简单；
生命常得大愉悦，一定是心灵纯净到不复杂。
人，一简单就快乐，但快乐的人寥寥无几；一复杂就痛苦，
可痛苦的人却熙熙攘攘。这反映出的现实问题是：更多的人，
要活出简单来不容易，要活出复杂来却很简单。
这个世界，每天都充斥着利益的调整与分配。人，
每天都被各种复杂的心情左右着，操控着。科技发展到现在，
我们利用它几乎可以做到一切，譬如可以准确地登上月球，
可以把一周的天气预报得分毫不差，
却无法知道下一刻会拥有怎样的心情。
说到底，科技掌控的是客观，是理性；而人，却是主观的感性动物。
而主观与感性，是最不容易捉摸与掌控的。
一眼望到底的，似乎很简单。一口百年古井，幽深，澄澈，
也可以一望到底，但这口古井，本身却并不简单。人也一样。
有时候，一个人可以一眼望到底，并不是因为他太过简单，
不够深刻，而是他太过纯净。一个人，有至纯的灵魂，
原本就是一种撼人心魄的深刻。
这样的简单，让人敬仰。
有的人云山雾罩，看起来很复杂，很有深度。其实，这种深度，
是城府的深度，而不是灵魂的深度。
这种复杂，是险恶人性的交错，而不是曼妙智慧的叠加。
人生，说到最后，简单得只有生死两个字，
但由于有了命运的浮沉，由于有了人世的冷暖，
简单的过程才变得跌宕起伏，纷繁复杂。
简单，是生命留给这个世界的美丽的手势；而复杂，
是生命永远无法打捞的苍凉的梦境。
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黄小琥 - 没那麽简单
作词：姚若龙 作曲：萧煌奇
没那麽简单 就能找到 聊得来的伴
尤其是在 看过了那麽多的背叛
总是不安 只好强悍
谁谋杀了我的浪漫
没那麽简单 就能去爱 别的全不看
变得实际 也许好也许坏各一半
不爱孤单 一久也习惯
不用担心谁 也不用被谁管
感觉快乐就忙东忙西
感觉累了就放空自己
别人说的话 随便听一听 自己做决定
不想拥有太多情绪
一杯红酒配电影
在周末晚上 关上了手机 舒服窝在沙发里
相爱没有那麽容易 每个人有他的脾气
过了爱做梦的年纪 轰轰烈烈不如平静
幸福没有那麽容易 才会特别让人着迷
什麽都不懂的年纪
曾经最掏心 所以最开心 曾经
没那麽简单 就能去爱 别的全不看
变得实际 也许好也许坏各一半
不爱孤单 一久也习惯
不用担心谁 也不用被谁管
感觉快乐就忙东忙西
感觉累了就放空自己
别人说的话 随便听一听 自己做决定
不想拥有太多情绪
一杯红酒配电影
在周末晚上 关上了手机 舒服窝在沙发里
相爱没有那麽容易 每个人有他的脾气
过了爱做梦的年纪 轰轰烈烈不如平静
幸福没有那麽容易 才会特别让人着迷
什麽都不懂的年纪
曾经最掏心 所以最开心 曾经
相爱没有那麽容易 每个人有他的脾气
过了爱做梦的年纪 轰轰烈烈不如平静
幸福没有那麽容易 才会特别让人着迷
什麽都不懂的年纪
曾经最掏心 所以最开心 曾经
想念最伤心 但却最动心 的记忆
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